Dear K.,
My questions are: would you let your 8 year old use a sharp chef's knife in the kitchen? Would you let your 8 year old use a box cutter or utility knife? If the answer is no, then why would you let her use a razor blade on herself or will you be shaving her legs for her? No matter how "safe" they say razors are now-a-days, they still are incredibly sharp blades that can cut and scar (I still have my 14 year old "beauty" wounds at 37).
If your answer is yes, then my question is are you going to have her peers at school dictate her decisions about beauty and self-esteem?
This could be such an opportunity to boost your daughter's self-image and confidence. At 8, why would she shave?
The boys will be excited when they get hair in a few years yet the girls will be pushing to shave, wear make-up, get a bra at younger and younger ages to feel older and more mature. These things do not equate to maturity, they only equate to how strong the media is perpetuating the "beauty myth" and how strong peer-pressure can be.
Your daughter is incredible, dynamic and beautiful, dark hair on her legs and all. Shaving her legs, if she eventually chooses to, is the beginning ritual into sexuality, courtship, and sex. Are you prepared now to discuss sex, safe-sex, relationships, and heartbreak with your 8 year old? If no, then why would you initiate this ritual into sexuality? It seems to be such a mixed message; shave to prepare yourself as more attractive and sexually interesting but is 8 years old an age to begin courtship? It is no coincidence that shaving has in the past been attached to puberty and physical development to being physically able to procreate.
And then there is the whole discussion of beauty. What is beautiful? In the USA it is female bodies prebubescent in shape(waifishness and below healthy BMI images) and hairlessness(girls younger and younger are being brought by thier mother's to "spas" to be waxed hairless). In European and Asian and African countries it can be with or without hair in beauty magazines, TV, and advertisements.
Does her dark leg hair make her any less beautiful?
If you encourage her to shave at 8, what messages are you sending to your daughter about her beauty, her sexuality, and the influential strength of her peers?
Obviously, I would discourage you to support shaving at 8 years old. But, you are her mother, you love and cherish her and you hold her heart and well-being as paramount. I just wanted to give you some thoughts from the other side of the coin.
Every generation watches children's childhood get shorter & shorter while we parents act shocked as younger children have sex, begin drinking, and try drugs. We blame it on the Media and their peers but what are we as parents perpetuating in taking our children's childhoods away?
Fondly,
ann