Help with Out of Control Child (Might Have ADHD I Don't Know)

S.,

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S. I am proud of you. You are reaching out for help and I can appreciate all the effort you are putting out to be the best mom you can be. Your son is perfectly fine. He is just a loving boy who has so much energy. Yes I agree with some of the other moms who have recomended structure, rules, boundaries, and limitations. Next I would recomend a 15 to 20 minute walk around the block. At first it will be a struggle and as you continue to do it, it will be so satistying to you and to him. I recomend talking to him about things he loves during your walk. Focusing on nature and discovering the many wonders the outdoors have to offer. Pay lots of attention on the food you are eating and he is eating. There might possibly be an unbalance in the foods he is eating. Make sure u provide lots of vegies, fruits, and natural whole foods as much as possible. Lots of water is also a must. Watch the movie The Secret about 10 times. Make a list of all the things you are greateful for each and everyday. Dont worry about your son, he is perfect the way he is. Watch the movie as soon as u can you will be sooooooooooooo greatful u did. One more thing, give 7 daily hugs to your kids and if they start acting up give them an extra 3 more. Remember to set rules, boundaries and limitations and be consistent, calm and assertive.
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Hi S., Most likely you've been told this before, but if you THINK your son has ADD/ADHD you should consult with his doctor for testing and medication. It really helps. Then looking at some 3 year olds that are out of control, it could be the guideline that you have given him. Being the only boy, and the youngest for a time, maybe he has felt abandoned when you had your 1 year old and is acting out because of that. Either way you should first have him checked out by his doc. If it's not ADD/ADHD and just acting out, you MUST set limits for him and stay consistant. Stay calm (I know that one is hard) and let him throw his fit, but do not react to him when he does. Always remember to reward GOOD behavior, not BAD... My daughter went through this with her son too, and it was really hard being the single mother she was. Her son will be 5 next month and has been doing so well for a long time now. He still has his "nasty" times, but now he knows how mom doesn't react so those times are shorter and far between. Good Luck S. and keep the Faith, it will work out....

Hi S.. If you really think this is ADHD than you need to go to a mental health doctor. The only way your son can get better is by controlling the chemical imbalances with medication. My brother, 9 yrs. old, has severe ADHD. It is still h*** o* him, but he is taking...I think its called Aderal (I have NO idea how to spell that). Anyway, he is much better now under a specialists care and medication. I hope you have good luck with this. Best Wishes, T.

What is he doing? I'm sure people would love to help you out, but it's hard to offer any advice without knowing what's going on. Both of my boys (almost 10 and 6) are ADHD, so if that's what happening, I know how you feel. Although they usually try not to diagnose ADHD until 5 or 6 years old since what can seem like ADHD in younger kids (especially boys) is often just kids being kids.

I do not know much about ADHD his pediatrion would be abvle to help also you can contact your local school district and ask for an assesment ( due this in writing)

How is he out of control... ?? the first step is going to your pediatrician and asking for help, testing for anything you think is out of the ordinary.

It's been awhile since you posted this so I don't know how far you have gotten. I have a hard to deal with child and I know how you feel. You know in your heart and gut something is "different" especialy since you have other children. All I can say is don't ever let anyone try to make you feel guilty for how you feel about what is happening. Too many people try to push thier opinion that your child is just bright and all you have to do is LOVE them..... They obviously don't have experience with your situation. I know that you love your child and sometimes it is hard to like them. You see how it affects the rest of your family and sometimes destroys it. Help for these situations isn't always easy to find for all special concerns. I just have to stop and breath and go outside and think about what my daughter does that makes me and my other children laugh and sometimes let the discipline go for the sake of the karma of the household. I love all my children with all that I am and sacrificed my marriage for them. I would do it all over again too, but the "difficult" child sometimes makes me feel like a horrible parent. You are not alone and if you are honest and genuine with your family, friends, and hopefully a good Dr you can find what works for your child. Every child is different so try it all until something works. I have been trying it all for 3 years and still have yet to find a effective solution.....But I won't give up until harmony is in my house. I have been putting off meds for my daughter because of fear of misdiagnosis, but that too is something that is only right when we feel it is right and no one elses descision. Good luck and if you find a trick let me know too.
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I wish I knew more about what your son's symptoms are but I see you have a daughter woh is older than your son. Boys are alot more physical than girls, they don't sit down and pay attention to things like girls. I spent alot of time watching my neice and have only sisters so when my son came along it threw me for a loop. He is go go go a mile a minute and the only thing he pays any attention to for more than a couple minutes is playdough and paint but he just makes a huge mess. If you are concerned talk to your pediatrician. But he may just be active.

I just wanted to let you know i can relate. I have two boys, 4 and 6, that have always kept me on my feet. They both have very different personalities and are very respectful, but always on the move. We never really noticed my older having any problems until he reached school, but my little one wasn't talking very well, along with some other learning issues. We just felt he wasn't up to par with other 3 y/o. There is a program here through the school district call Child Find. It's for kids ages 3-5. They did a full evaluation on him and put him in the program. He now goes to a preschool program 4 days a week, gets an hour of speech therapy and perhaps a ocuapational therapist to help with his small motor skills, which all are symptoms of ADD. We see a neruologist, and he says he positive that he has ADD, but is too young to medicate so we're in the observing stage. It is very difficult, he's improving, but he doesn't want to potty train, he's very hard to communicate with and he just doesn't grasp the concept of things, like consquences or dangers. It takes a lot of patience!

My older son started going to the neurologist when he just kept having trouble in school. He has Fs in all subjects, and is behind in reading. He is just starting on Adderal now and is improving, but still has to struggle. We are very supportive and try to be patient but it is very hard.

I suggest outdoor activites and lots of them! I think we go to the park, ride bike anything alm ost everyday. Structured activities like soccer, there should be little leagues for them through the city. Play groups, social activites. Both my boys have a hard time being social.

If you ever need to vent I'm here. I know how hard it is to have difficult, yet such loving boys. They try their best, and when it's still not good enough, it's so hard for them.

Look into programs for kids. Try that first because they'll help you go in the right direction. Wish you the best.

C.

ADHD is so overrated and everyone is so quick to diagnosis it.

I too thought my 3 year old was "not normal" as far as how active (amongnst other traits) he was. My girlfriends who also have kids would babysit and when I'd pick him up they'd say how overly active he was and how tired she was and then ask me how I do it.

I started researching ADD & ADHD and actually came across the term "spirited child". A really good book that I am using as a toll is Raising Your Spirited Child, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. I highly recommend that all moms read this book, even if you do not have a "spirited child".

It has helped me learn how to understand my son. Anyhow, a GREAT tool!.

Hello S.,
I am a foster mother with much experience with many various behaviors in many different situations. I would suggest first and foremost getting in touch with your local childrens servies for an assessment. This is very simple, usually no cost for a child in the USA under 5, if in school they can refer you if you need assistance. There are many assessment tools to diagnose many disorders and until you have met with a professional and or a few I would be careful to diagnose and treat your child as if he has adhd. What works for a child with Adhd will be a harm to a child with another disorder. It is very hard for a parent to feel that they can not help thier child in maintaining a balance, peace or normalacy compared to other parents. I would share this frustration as well with the professional and get in touch with the resources they provide to you. I am adopting a child with RAD. This has a very similar look and actions of ADHD but it is not and she must be treated with much love, patience and most of all firm boundries to assure she is safe. I am at wits ends at times but I have found professional help is available to walk me through the hard times as well as share in the victories of her growth and emotional development. Ask for the help and you will recieve. Keep calling until you reach the right professional. You will feel the relief when someone understands your pain and has an answer that makes sence. Maybe it is ADHD, maybe it isn't. But I would listen only to a person who is trained to make that diagnosis. Please continue to reach out and take time for you to refresh and recharge. Your the glue that keeps it all together, without you there is no them. We are moms and that is the fact of motherhood I found after 25 years of mothering. I am needed and I am needed in a whole mind, body and spirit. We must take care of us too. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you journey into the unknown and find your answer to your dilema.
S.

S.
What are your son's symptoms? The pediatrician has a form that helps to test if your son is adhd. I had twin nephews on the ADHD spectrum and a son who is Autistic. I know what it's like.