Hoping to Adopt

Updated on February 10, 2008
K.W. asks from Keller, TX
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If anyone knows of a possible adoption situation...please help my husband and me out. We have been attempting to adopt for over six years through agencies and foster care. We always seem to come in second for being chose. We have also had a couple fall through.

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A.L.

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I am a foster and adoption parent through an agency dealing with CPS kids. I adopted my son in november, I have a foster daughter and a biological daughter. I suggest foster agencies. My family has been blessed with 3 adopted children in the last 2 years. I have heard that the gladney in ft worth is a good place.

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K.H.

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Hello! My name is K.. I have some friends that are tring to adopt also. They have been waiting for quiet sometime. Another friend in Florida, adopted from the church of christ. I hope that you get your child soon. You will be in my thoguhts and prayers. Just pray and everything will be okay....
Good Luck with everything....
K.

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C.R.

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Well, I was going to suggest the foster care system, but you said you have tried that. My husband and I were relicensed less than three years ago (we've done foster care off and on all our marriage), and are already probably on our third adoption, and we really only intended to adopt the older brother and sister of our little boy (didn't even know the little boy was conceived. In the end, mom got the older ones back, but reliquished her baby) Then our next foster child went home, and we got two little girls within two weeks of her leaving (they were not sisters). We adopted the older one, and the second one went to a relative placememt, and six days after she left, and three weeks after the adoption of our daughter was final, we were asked to take our daughters full sibling five month old baby brother, and he will almost certainly be an adoption, too. That will give us 10 children, seven biological, three adoptions, but how could we turn her brother down?
I think if you hang in there with foster care, you will end up with a child. Our first adoption, our son, was actually our daughters foster son, and we got to help care for him from birth. Our second, our daughter, came to us when she was two and a half, and her adoption was final December 20, she was four. Her little brother, who came to live with us nine days ago, just turned six months.

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J.B.

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We've worn your shoes! In Texas there is a 48 hr. waiting period from the time the mother gives birth until the Adoptive parents can pick the baby up from the hospital (as you may know). My husband & I came so close that we waited the first 24 hrs. & then decided it was time to get our bags together, make a hotel & airplane reservation & pick up "our son".....well nothing went as planned. This was a private adoption & the mother changed her mind in the last 24 hrs.. Talk about hard! We've actually been thru 10 yrs. of infertility treatment & 4 failed adoptions. We tried to adopt privately, thru an agency, thru the state & out of state. All were very different. I would advise a private adoption if you could chose.

We miraculously were blessed with twins 2 yrs. ago thru fertility measures. God has HIS plan all along. You must trust that the child that was not given to you was designed for someone else. It is critical on your marriage to be on the same page. This process nearly split us apart & we are solid christians. Be patient & keep praying for the RIGHT baby! Best of luck. Feel free to e-mail me anytime.

Did you adopt your first son?
J.

C.R.

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Hi K.,
My husband and I have adopted two of our sons through Gladney in Fort Worth. They were domestic adoptions. Sounds like you need to find a good adoption agency if you have waited for 6 years!
I am not familiar with foster care and adoption but I would that that in time you can adopt. If you are looking to adopt an older child it would very easy and cost you nothing if you go through the State. If you are wanting an infant adoption there are plenty agencies around here to assist you and your family. Of course none of them are equal. Some require you pay for medical care of the birth mothers, give financial support during pregnancy and some do NOT allow for your money to move forward towards another possible adoption if the mother decided to change her mind. I wanted NO financial risk and decided on Gladney for that main reason. Most all agencies have orientations for their agencies you can get the info you need to make a decision. If you are trying adoption on your own with a private adotpion the risks are very high and you could lose alot both financial and emotional. It is very wise for you to have someone to represent you in this emotional, financial, legal journey.
It makes no sense to me that you have waited so long if you are using an agency. (?)
C.

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E.D.

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hmmm..
have you tried foster to adopt? there are lots of local agencies here in Ft. Worth and I'm sure all over the country.
I'm sorry. I am sure it is disappointing.

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A.G.

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Hello
I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. I also think that you just have not met your blessing yet. Remind yourself that God has a plan for all of us and your child is yet to come. I also have foster kids and 3 kids of my own. I belive that you are helping the kids that are placed in your home threw the foster care and your willingness to surve others will not go without reward! Jeremiah 29:11 says For I know the plans I have for you,plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a furture! So, just keep praying and something will come of it. You should pray for a blessing for the baby and the mother that you have yet to meet. God Bless.

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H.Z.

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check out acresofhope.org for Liberian adoptions.

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C.J.

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Have you thought of international adoption? I know that it can be very expensive, but maybe you should at least look into it.

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R.

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I second Gladney in Ft.Worth

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