I Should Have Had Boys.....

Updated on August 08, 2010
S.D. asks from Enterprise, AL
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I do not understand how any stay at home Mom keeps her sanity with girls. From whinning drama queens to 9+ hours of repeative doll/barbie playing I just cant stay into it! (dear god im screwed when they get older) I know I have a lot of issues in my town where I live. My daughters friends have all moved away due to military base and the locals, well we just dont have anything in common (former brat and Mil wife) I get really bored or tired of "being the toy" to my kids. As much as I tried to do many other things with them, the girly girl comes out in full force. I never grew up with dolls, the only girl stuff i did was play with my little ponies. Most of the time I was playing sports or running like crazy outside riding my bike, beating up boys and playing video games. My girls could do the same talking barbies play 24/7/365, it never gets old. I however can take maybe 5-10 mins before going comatose. As I go cuckoo for cocoa puffs, Im amazed at lifes irony and it reminds me to just laugh it all off. You cant have your cake and eat it too!
I really should have had boys! So , I just had to let out some steam.. Thank you Love to hear your guys stories!

*edit*** My children are 2 and 3.75 yr old

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Ugh. I feel ya...I only have O. boy but there are MANY days that I cannot throw a baseball or get tackled O....more...time. Then there are the hot wheels, Nascars and baseball/football trading cards! Be careful what you wish for! LOL

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

OMG, I feel you but I have boys!!! I am still their 24/7 fave toy. That's just being a mama!!! I went out to a movie last night and just reveled in the fact that no-one was climbing on me, saying "MOOOOM", asking for food, hiding and yelling to be found, throwing toys in front of me etc..... Try to get a break and know that one day we will laugh when they call us going crazy because of their kids:D That's the ultimate pay back!!LOL Take care mama;)

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B.B.

answers from Washington DC on

As soon as they're old enough (kindergarten for Daisies), get them in Girl Scouts. They'll be involved in so many different activities and community service work, they'll discover passions and interests above and beyond all the traditional girly stuff. My daughter has been involved in scouting for 9 years, and during that time she's gone camping, kayaking, dogsledding, scuba diving, and hiking (and that's just a partial list!). She's picked up litter, planted flowers, taught games and first aid to younger scouts, learned how to sew, balance a checkbook, and manage her finances. And yes, she's sold a LOT of cookies! She has helped out with food drives, toy drives, and assisted at senior centers. She's made close friends who aren't involved with the cliquish, mean-girl type dramas typical of school-aged girls.

She has now blossomed into a caring, compassionate young lady with dreams aplenty. Although that's probably who she was always going to be -- I think scouting helped her along that path. Find a troop with a leader who is truly devoted to scouting, it makes all the difference.

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L.C.

answers from Raleigh on

So funny, I was always a girly girl..... barbies,baby dolls, dress up and what do you know I end up with 2 boys (God surely has a sence of humor:)) I have no interest in golf, video games, wrestling or fishing, and that's what by boys are into . I have to work hard to bond with them, for daddy it's a piece of cake:). We do have ALOT of "whining drama king" moments during the day though....and they are 5 1/2 and 3 1/2.

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A.H.

answers from New York on

just try to enoy.... the barbies leave soon.. as they get older it will be the mall, makeup and boyz... watch out then... get them into a dance, gymnastic or swim class where they can meet new friends.. maybe tennis or softball... maybe soccer..... whatever.. but they need to meet other kids..

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J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

When I was pregnant I really wanted a boy. I am a tomboy, with occasional girlie moments. All my cousins were boys, and I have only brothers. I thought how great it would be to connect on that level with a little boy. Turns out I had a girl. Now I am enjoying the dolls and pretty dresses, and so on. Granted she doesn't have Barbies yet (not too sure I want her to have too many) but there are days where all she wants to do is play with dolls. I think she's bringing out my girlie side more and more.
My friend who is a huge tomboy, had boys. They are 3 years apart. She too was happy she had boys since she's not girlie.....she's slowly going insane. LOL they drive her nuts. Her boys are in constant competition for everything. Attention, sports, personal possesions, food, drinks, treats, who gets to sit where in the car. Some days she said she feels like banging her head against the wall. =)

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R.W.

answers from San Francisco on

Well, boys are less boring in some ways, I will give you that. =)
But they pee all over everything, they don't clean up after themselves, they are incredibly loud, they smell, they throw things, use their clothes as napkins and rip them also.
They BREAK THINGS!! We had to rent a dumpster to fill with all the things our 3 boys broke in just a couple of years, including furniture, exercise equipment, large electronics, window blinds, you name it. It gets expensive!
And then there are the emergency room trips...

I don't like Barbies either, but it will turn into boy crushes before you know it. =)

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T.H.

answers from Kansas City on

Maybe you should start making Barbie want to play soccer and baseball! Really get her geared up and make her a little ball and get her out there to play sports! Haha! I'm sort of kidding, but sort of not...maybe it will work! Maybe it will encourage them to want to get outside and do some other things! Also, I don't think there's anything wrong with saying...Mommy will play barbies for the next 20 minutes and then I'm going to stop. We can go outside or play a different game or you can play barbies by yourselves for a while. You can do the same thing with going outside...tell them they have some time to play inside and then you are all going outside for at least 30 minutes (or whatever) and make it happen. They may whine at first, but they'll find fun stuff to do outside too! Also, search the internet for free activities near you. It helps me to just get out of the house and do something, no matter what. It is hard to be cooped up all day with the kids, I know! Good luck!

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H.V.

answers from Cleveland on

Ahh stop scaring me lol

I have a 2 y/o boy and he is now totally Obsessed with Hot Wheels! I LOVE IT!
I was never a girly girl either...now i'm 36wks pregnant and this one has the chance to be a ::Gulp:: a girl....

Ya I know I'll love it either way, but I would be ok with just having all boys.
I can't stand barbies!

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M.C.

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It's tough now for you, but one day you will look back and trust me, you will miss these precious days. I grew up an only child, pretty much. I have a sister and brother who are way older than me (20+ years). I always wished I would've had a sister closer in age to bond with, make memories and always be there. Your lucky that they share so much in common. I hope that they have a wonderful relationship throughout their lives.

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M.M.

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Girl, I hear ya! Although, I did have boys, but I don't think I could have handled having girls. I was never a girly girl and never had many girl friends, most of my friends were guys. I didn't wear the trendy clothes or the current make-up or hairstyle so naturally, I didn't fit in with girls. Girls and women can be so petty and snide and dear Lord, they can hold a grudge. All I can say is continue to role model the behavior you expect as far as compassion, courtesy, kindness and teach them patience and to not be judgmental. If you see them moving to the 'mean girl' phase (which some tend to do these days thanks to TV and music) - nip it in the bud even if that includes no hanging out with friends and getting reports daily from teachers. I know almost a dozen moms that have pulled out their daughters from a great school district to home school due to the 'mean girl' trend. As a teacher, I have seen many girls in tears b/c of this and the parents of the mean girls have their heads in the sand about it. Sorry, went on a tangent there... Again, let them be the girly girl if they want, but also reinforce your values and expectations. Eventually, you will find a common bond with them just not right now. My grandmother didn't really like us kids until were in college, but I had a wonderful relationship with her as an adult.

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A.F.

answers from Norfolk on

There is still hope for you. Your girls are still pretty young. I think in a few years they will play outside with you chasing the boys and beat them up. Hahaha... My daughter is the complete opposite from me too. Kind of funny how that happens. She is four and already loves make up and i am over thirty and don't even wear it. :) But I have to say if we go outside and play she is the one that will get down and dirty and my boy is super clean. If you live in a military town and all your friends moved away, they have to be new people moving in, right!? Hang in there!!!!

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M.S.

answers from Chicago on

Sometimes I think my 4 yr. old boy acts like a girl. He changes 7x day for fun, constantly has a new pair of shoes on. He also takes apart all his toys. He finds a screwdriver even after we've hid them in really good spots. Then he gets mad that I can't put them back together!! I'm a girly girl... I had to laugh at some of the other boy descriptions. The dirty, ripped clothes, shirts used as napkins. Birps, farts. So much energy... Will you please just sit down on the couch nicely and for more than a 1/2 hour cartoon!!! Why don't they make boy doll houses, I think my boys would actually like to play some form of boy dolls.

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D.S.

answers from Tulsa on

you are too funny. I had 2 boys both born with long hair. pretty enough if they were girls I would have been in heaven. darn boys anyway

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M.I.

answers from Albuquerque on

ha ha my girls are just about the same age as your girls. They are little girly girls, they love pink and they love their dollys but then again they're little tomboys too because they're not afraid to play in the dirt or toss a ball around.

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A.B.

answers from New York on

Haha your post was so funny. Having boys just means instead of you being a toy barbie for your girls you are a toy dino, pirate, transformer, G.I Joe, Hulk and any super hero they can think of. And boys pounce and want to wrestle. I personally love it, but I did use to fanatsize about having a girl and doing the girly things.... grass is always greener....

T.C.

answers from Albuquerque on

Hi,
I'm not going to offer any advice. I just wanted to say your post made me smile.

I have 3 and 5 yo boys, and was a princess to the hilt as a girl. I have to watch my husband play with our kids to get a clue how to act when they do something like... swing a sword at me... call me a monster and yell they're gonna eat me... take all their toys out of their playbox so it can be a pirate ship... etc.

In the end, I just do my best, and when I can't figure out what else to do, I grab them and give them great big hugs and kisses... they like that, too.

Good luck!
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K.T.

answers from Minneapolis on

The grass is always greener....
I was never a girly girl, but I would love to have a girl! My son is 2.5 and he is a "whining drama queen" too. It's just the age.
And I have had more than my fair share of hot wheels, cars, trucks, balls, throwing toys, jumping, running, climbing, destruction, messes, and general roughness. Lately my son has been hiding and jumping from behind a corner to scare me. If I leave the room even for 2 seconds, he is up on the table, pulling on the switch for the ceiling fan, or opening the back door and going outside by himself [thank god we have a fence, and a gate that he is unable to open].
I can't even get him to sit and color or read a book for more than a minute or two.
Don't get me wrong, the energy that boys bring to a home is a whole lot of fun....but it is so tiring, too! I long for a girl to sit and color, read books, or play barbies with.

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R.D.

answers from Washington DC on

My daughter requires more attention than my boys, but I think that is jhust a girl thing. She talks a LOT!! But my husband swears that is my gene pool coming out :). She is into arts and crafts now though. So she does that a lot on her own, but still wants us to color with her sometimes. Whereas the boys are fine to do their own thing all day long. They are just different. i know it gets insanely boring, but can they entertain themselves? Tell them you are not at home with them to be their playmate, but to take care of them and the house. Not in a mean way, but don't play with them all day, but a few hours give them your undivided attention. Maybe have some play time before and after nap/lunch. That might help!

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