Invite Daycare 'Friends' to 4Th Bday Party?

Updated on September 14, 2010
A.K. asks from Minneapolis, MN
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We are having our daughters 4th birthday party at a park, we rented the pavillion. A lot of our extended family cannot make it, so we will have a lot of room. My daughter goes to a home daycare (which we love) 4 days a week and has been going there for a year. Some of the kids are different ages, one is a little older than her, a few are a little younger than her. I would like to invite some of the kids she plays with but don't know how to do it without someone feeling left out or pressured to come. Should I have our provider give each family a invitation in their bag (I only see a couple of the parents during drop off). Would you think that was weird if your kid was like, 2, and got an invitation from a 4 year old? Or is that ok? Should I put 'present not needed' or something? I dont want them to think they need to buy a fancy present or anything.

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S.D.

answers from Minneapolis on

I run a home daycare. I think it is totally fine for your dd to invite a few kids, or all of them, whatever she (and you) want to do. Sometimes the bday child invites only the same gender, or only similar age, or only the children he/she plays with most. I don't think there have ever been hurt feelings, nor has anyone felt obligated to bring a gift. I would put on there, like someone else said, presents are not required. I held a large bday party for my dd's 1st bday (she is now 9) and put "Your presents are not required, only your presence." Most people brought something, but a lot did not, and that was totally fine. I think, being a park, any age child would do great, it will be a lot of fun, and it gives the parents at the daycare a chance to get to know each other better. Enjoy!

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T.W.

answers from Milwaukee on

I have an Inhome daycare where the ages range from 8 weeks to 4yr old. Normally the parents in our group gives me the invites at drop off and when the parents for the others come for pickup I make sure its in the backpacks ready to go home. Some times the parents are only wanting the little girls or the little boys in the group for the bday party and thats quite okay too. I just make sure that the right invitations go in the right backpacks. :) Leave it to the parent to decide if they want to give a gift or not. Try not to worry about it. Your daughters are going to have a great party :)

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S.H.

answers from Huntsville on

My daughter has gotten party invitations from her classmates at daycare before, but the kids are grouped in rooms by age. So, not sure about the younger ones. Perhaps others have thoughts on that? I think it would be fine, they can come if they want.

As far as the presents, I just read this on another site.. "No presents are required, only your presence is desired." Maybe that wording would work? It doesn't say you *can't* bring a gift, just that it's not required.

For my daughter's 2nd birthday, we only invited 2 of her classmates. There was one boy & one girl that she ALWAYS talked about & played with, so I only invited them. (There were other family & friends at the party as well). She's going to be 5 in February and I want to invite her Pre K class. I'm gonna have fun wording her invitations because I'm going to have to limit it to ten kids and ten adults!! (Meaning one parent per kid & no siblings, & they will HAVE to RSVP to get a spot! lol)

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G.B.

answers from Tulsa on

I would invite the home child care kids. Those children are her friends. No matter what their ages. She loves the babies just as much as the kids older than her. I would do a simple invitation and just let the parents decide what to do, they can always ask the owner discretely if they have any questions. People just don't go to birthday parties, especially children's parties with out taking a gift. You can visit with the home owner and give her some ideas to pass on if she's asked about gifts. She would enjoy coming too I am sure.

K.G.

answers from Boca Raton on

For my son's 4th birthday I asked his teacher who my son is friends with in the class.. She gave me a list of everyone, I wrote out the invitations, and then the teacher put it in the kids lunch boxes to bring home with them.... I don't think 2-4yrs old is a huge difference when it comes to playing... If your daughter plays with them in class, then she'll play with them at her party.. Have fun~

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