I am so sorry that your friend has to deal with these kinds of problems.
I completely understand her worries about finances and being overwhelmed.
I hope she made the abortion appt. being completely sure about her decision. If she is terminating only because of finances, health insurance, etc. I feel she should not do it.
If she is internally absolutely sure that she does not want this baby then she should follow her gut. It's her decision. I for my part would involve my entire family and ask for help making this decision. her husband, their parents, siblings, even her kids will understand that they need to take on new responsibilities if they all decide to have this baby. Help is sometimes all it takes but it is hard to reach out!!!! Especially with something like this.
If there is any doubt in her mind or in her husband's mind, she should not terminate her pregnancy. With doubt there may be problems afterward.
Has she reached out to get councelling. Does she belong to a church?
Does she live here in the area?
I have a great network of mothers around me and they would help me if I were to struggle with a decision like this.
I am sure you cannot explain all of her circumstances on this forum but this cannot be it. Can she live on a budget, can they live on the husband's salary? Can she work in a lower class job? Cashier etc. At least until the baby comes. If she is not showing yet she can probably still get a new job.
I don't know but this cannot be it. There is help is out there and I do not know if all possibilities have been exhausted.
I'll send you a private message w/ my phone number. Maybe I can help in some way!
J.