Seeking Help with a Child Who Is Starting to Bully

With certain actions there are penaltys to pay. The other mom response was a start, talking to the teacher and or caregivers for any unusual behavior. 2nd as a rule if they bully time out or even special thing they like can be taken away. Choices would be talk about it or something will be taken away for there behavior. With my own children i ask them to tell me what they are willing to give up and if they can't deciede then i make the choice.

Sounds to me like your son is being provoked by other kids. Not that it makes his actions ok, but I'm guessing that he needs some help. These are aggressive behaviors that he is displaying. (Flip the coin...if your son came home and told you that another boy at school had held a pencil to him and said something threatening what would you do?) I think punishment isn't the solution. Talk to the teachers, have meetings with people who are with him during the day. Get down to the bottom of the problem. (He probably isn't going to tell you himself which is normal.)

M.,

Alot of times kids don't like to talkabout trouble they are having at school or with the other kids because they are afraid they'll get in trouble, or they are embarassed, or they don't want you to call another kid's parent, and make things worse for them.

Try talking to the teacher to see if she, or a playground monitor has noticed anything going on, or tension between your son and any of the other kids. Good teachers are in tune with that stuff.