Telling That Someone Is Cheating

"While i don't think the story was true......I don't have much to do with my family because i tell the truth....."

Do you see the problem with the two sentences that you yourself wrote out?? You completely said the opposite things! You repeated something that you believed to be untrue, that is NOT speaking with TRUTH. This kind of information is VERY VERY hurtful...you did not repeat it in the spirit of helpfulness you simply repeated juicy gossip. Just because you feel the need to speak your mind without censoring your thoughts does not make you right. If you want love and respect and communication with your family than you will need to give them love and respectful communication in return. You harvest what you plant and I think life is too short to plant the kinds of seeds you are planting...think about it! You can repair this...and you know how...you can do it, its not easy but I know you CAN, because you are a strong person!

I read your response in "What Happened", as well as your response to those who replied to you in the request which has since been removed, and admittedly I'm more than slightly offended and pretty charged,(though that could be the lack of sleep as well as a little Post-pardem). The issue is not that you open your mouth and speak your mind, its that you do it inappropriately. I commend you for your desire to always speak the truth, as well as your decision to share potentially harmful information with those it could harm. However, your accusations to those who felt you should "mind your own buiness" was not only way off base and untrue, it was also uncalled for. You asked for advise, they gave their honest opinions, and now you are firing back with nasty accusations much like your family did to you when you gave your opinion. Doesn't make much sense does it. Many people would say that you should have minded your own business for no other reason than because you had no proof and didn't even really believe the rumor to begin with. continuing the spread of rumors is not only unfair, wrong, and untruthful with regular society, but to do it within your family is twice as hurtful. Family is the group you should be able to trust most and now your family obviously feels as though you have lost credibility (and rightly so) because you perpetuated the spreading of a lie. The other posters don't have to be cheaters or Weak Minded to believe you should me more mindful of what you say and when you say it. So in close, learn when it is appropriate to open your mouth, learn tact, and if you don't want an honest answer or opinion to a request, Don't post it.

You shouldn't have gotten involved. Especially since you said you were pretty sure it wasn't true.

The only thing you can do is apologize. People will either forgive you or they won't. Now all you can do is wait.

You should apologize again and again. You were wrong to gossip about the situation and to spread rumors.

Why would you repeat a rumor to someone when you were pretty sure it wasn't true? I would not say anything unless I had proof -- that I saw it with my own eyes. I would never repeat a rumor. Rumors really do nothing but hurt people. If you saw this with your own eyes and had factual proof then maybe you could confront the cheater, but never should you tell the cheater's spouse. It's obvious from the reaction of your family that this caused hurt and did nobody any good. You do need to keep apologizing, and keep your mouth shut in the future. Let people live their own lives and they'll do just fine without your help.