Moving - Dayton,OH

You are not being unreasonable but let me give another point of view. My family moved the summer before my senior year of high school. My parents made me move with them to keep the family together. At the time I was very angry. But now as an adult and mother, I'm glad they made me move. I'm glad I had that year with my family. After I graduated from HS, I went away to college, interned all around the country and after college got a job in a different state. I'm very glad I had that last year with my family.

In the grand scheme of things, it's probably not that important to have her finish hs where she is. I'd rather have my family together than sacrifice her father being with her the last two years you have to instill your values before she goes out on her own.

This would be a good time to make the move...too many people are so afraid to change schools...please....it is in the interest of your family....children need to learn how to face these important life changes....it is more important to keep your family together, and she will have two years left to adjust....expect it....this is how kids learn to cope with life...
Something that far too many parents are reluctant to help their children do...

I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. I would give your daughter a vote in the situation, but let her know the final decision rests with mom and dad. That way everyone knows the rationale behind the final decision. Besides I am sure each of you have a different aspect you can bring to the discussion. I don't think there is a wrong answer if it is a family decision.

I went to 3 different high schools and here's my take.

Ask your daughter. Is she involved in sports and school activities that may be difficult for her to be a part of if you move? If so then it may be more important to stay put. I know that I never had time to get involved in high school activities because I was never in one place long enough. I still regret that. Friends are another matter though, I moved about 45 minutes away, and still saw my friends, and made new, so that was a bonus. I'd say that as long as the move isn't terribly far the friend thing can be worked out and probably doesn't matter much.

But it isn't really a matter of how important you or dad think it is, you need to know how important it is to her. Maybe being with her dad means more than the rest of it. Two years is a long time, and paying for two homes is going to cost you.

My family moved when I was in 10th grade and it was an awesome experience for me. Yes, it is a bit difficult, but let's face it, big changes are coming for your daughter in the next couple of years, anyway. If she only had one year of school left, I might agree with you, but I'm on your husband's side. This will also be a good chance for her to learn how to make new friends before she goes off to college.

The most important lesson to teach your daughter is that family comes first.

I am in this situation right now! Ultimately, it is up to you and your husband to make the decision but I would definitely discuss it with your daughter and at least see how she feels. Maybe she'll want to move, who knows. Plus, would you even be able to sell right now?

With my situation, I have TWO children in high school; my husband was laid off for a whole year before finding a job that is four hours away in another state. He has a cheap apartment and comes home almost every weekend. I was not going to pull my children out of school - high school seems to be the hardest on any child - in my opinion. We have been uprooted two times already in the past and I was not going to go thru it again. My children did NOT want to move; nor did I. I am quite capable of taking care of our house, although we have a huge yard that I'm not thrilled with; but if I am able to sell, I would prefer to get something smaller and stay here before I would move out of state.

So, in answer to your question - NO, you are NOT being unreasonable! Yes, it IS important, if it's important to your daughter! Good luck!!!

I don't think you are being unreasonable. Is your daughter involved in a lot of things at the school she goes to? This would make a very big difference. Include her in the decision. Is she the only child this impacts? What school would she be going to? Are they close enough you can open enroll? There are many things to consider and perhaps a discussion with the 3 of you would be a good idea.

I think that it is important to find out what your daughter's feelings are on the situation. If it is REALLY important to her to stay then you should discuss it. If she doesn't really care one way or the other then let her finish out this year and go ahead and move.

If she is only nervous about starting a new school then she could always look into online classes and finish high school that way.

All in all I would talk to her first and see what she is thinking and her reasons behind that.

Good luck!! Congrats on your husband's new job.

every child is different. For every good story there is a negative story As another mom has said it depends on how involved your child is in school. Also you could do the move gradually to make sure you are making the right decision. Either way support within the family unit is critical.

I would definitely NOT rush out and move. There's no telling how secure your husband's new job is. I have heard MANY stories about people uprooting and moving for a job that didn't last long, for one reason or another.